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COMP 2903 A 16 – Romance in the Information Age Danny Silver JSOCS, Acadia University
Christine Rosen The New Atlantis, Winter, 2004
Love and the Internet • “They [the technologies] change not simly how we find our beloved, but what kind of beloved we hope to find” • What role should technology play in affairs of the heart?
Love and the Internet • So. . Does anyone know of a couple who met over the Internet? • Did it work?
Technologies that Have Contributed to Personal Relationships • • The automobile The phone Contraceptives Is the Internet more of the same? Strict manners giving way to the informal Has courtship declined? Has this improved things for us? Marriage … what’s the stats on this?
The Modern Courtship • Meeting locals is not the only game • Huge population of working singles • Seemingly have less in-person time for courtship • How do we resolve this?
Technological Impact Transparency -vs- Privacy • Technology erodes traditional boundaries • Enables and promote 2 detrimental forces – Demand for total transparency – Bias toward the over-sharing of personal information
Transparency: Good or Evil • WARNING: Google before dating! • But. . technological transparency does not always guarantee trust • Have you considered Spyware to record your X -friends keystrokes
Love as a Source of Income • Reality TV loves Love and Relationships – The Bachelor, The Bachelorette – Beauty and the Nerd – Bridezilla – Disclosure of private acts is apparently worth $$$ –
Internet Dating Sources • Blogs - http: //quigley. netfirms. com/ • Online dating … Is it different than traditional dating? How so?
Modern-Day Matchmakers • A booming business - $302 M in 2002 • 50% of US population has claimed to have visited sites such as: – http: //www. match. com/ – http: //www. flirt. com/ – http: //www. matchmaker. com/mm/dating/novasc otia-wolfville. htm
New Challenges in the Online World • I found my soul mate. . Now how do I get my name off the list ? ? ? • Stigma of having met on the Internet • New etiquette must be learned – “I can’t believe I am buying this book” a book about how to present oneself on the Web
Can we Scientifically find Love? Match people? Discover ourselves? • The ultimate double date with your laptop and its dating software • http: //onlinedatingpost. com/archives/2005/03/weattractcom_inc_annou nces_science_advisory_board/ • “Discover your instinctual preferences” • Try one of these tests out: – http: //www. teststests. com/personalitytest/
Stop the insanity !!!
Eharmony. com • Fall in love for the right reasons • Scientifically-proven set of compatibility principles – 29 dimensions • 35 years of emperical and clinical research • A good match is more scientific than art • Do you believe this is true?
How’s this changing our world? • Is the review of a dossier better than an initial glance across the classroom or bar followed by conversation? • Hector Jose Huyke writes that technology introduces major new elements that effect our choices in love and war • Things that are now easily accessible change our demands on each other • Old pathways are eliminated – “Just send me an email”, “Check out my Face. Book page”.
Technology and Love • The new alchemy • Goethe wrote: – “Work hard to encourage the beautiful, for the useful encourages itself” – What did he mean?