Communication Keys What is Communication Good communication takes

Communication Keys

What is Communication? Good communication takes place when the message you want to convey is received and understood the way you intended so that the relationship grows as a result.

Everyone wants to communicate.

Solomon on communication Proverbs chapters 15 to 18

Communication Keys

Listening keys Have good eye contact. Give focused, undivided attention. Watch your body language.

Listening keys Listen to the message behind the words. Respond appropriately.

More listening keys Rephrase when not clear. Try to understand the other person’s viewpoint. Don’t prejudge or mind-read. Be patient. Don’t defend yourself.

Still more listening keys Listen empathetically. Ask appropriate questions. Ask open-ended questions.

Still more listening keys Create trust and safety. Keep secrets and private matters confidential.

Speaking keys Choose or set the right atmosphere. Choose the right time and place. Think before you speak.

Speaking keys Don’t resurrect dead issues. Don’t talk too much. Don't put words into the other’s mouth.

More speaking keys Don’t be too quick to switch topics. Don’t be artificial or superficial. Avoid interrupting.

More speaking keys Have a pleasant tone of voice. Don’t use “put-downs” or belittling remarks. Don’t use generalizations like “You never. . . ” or “You always. . . ”

Still more speaking keys Use “I” messages and not “You” messages. Be sensitive to the other person’s feelings and needs.

Still more speaking keys Draw the other person into the conversation. Don’t attack or use abusive language. Control anger and other negative emotions.

Still more speaking keys Speak the truth in love. Eph. 4: 15 Sleep on some things. They may not seem so important tomorrow.

Still more speaking keys Talk about the other person’s interests. Be liberal with compliments, and stingy with criticism.

Conclusion Remember that good communication takes place when the message you want to convey is received and understood the way you intended so that the relationship grows as a result.