Communication and Stages of Relationships Mark Knapp and

Communication and Stages of Relationships Mark Knapp and the stages of relationship as seen through language choices and usage Dan and Mark at the University of Oregon Please read chapter eight on the ten stages Five stages coming together Five stages going apart Writing the interpersonal paper: click here for the instruction sheet

More on Communication and Relationships: Lying and Self-Disclosure Is is possible to not lie in an interpersonal relationship: ex. My daughters brutal honesty ex. My wife and I and a hard days work Reasons we are less then completely honest: (from the test) -to save face -to ovoid tension and conflict -to guide social interaction -to expand or reduce relationships -to gain power So, have you ever lied? Been lied to? Did you know it? How did it feel? Why?

On to Self-Disclosure • Note: I (Dan) played tennis once with the scholar behind this material. She got mad at me because I won. First, lets define self-disclosure? What is is? Now, let’s graphing self-disclosure: *Which of the following lines on the graph best describes how we self-disclose —A, B, or C? Or draw your own. Graph: B A High SD C Low SD Stranger Friends-family Intimates

More Graphing of Self-Disclosure High SD Low SD Stranger Friends-family So, what about this one? Intimates

Did you say yes to the second graph? Why, though?

So, putting it all together for the interpersonal paper You could do your paper on: • The stages • Self-disclosure • Lying • Or, even some other aspect of relationships that you have picked up in the course. Be creative. But, give me language examples to support your statements and theme of your paper.