Communicating Effectively A Guide to Building Healthy Relationships

Communicating Effectively A Guide to Building Healthy Relationships Chapter 11

Today’s Presentation: n Presented by: n n n Barika Bridges Erika Everett William Pokorny Raque’l Smith Lindsay West Today’s Target Audience is Young Men n Chapter 11 Ages 18 -25 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Listening vs. Hearing n n Listening: Clarifying what the person is saying and asking how he/she feels. Ask questions to understand more fully what is being said. Chapter 11 Hearing: n. The average listener correctly understands and properly retains only 30% of what he or she hears. n Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

The Role of Communication n Communication is: n n n An essential component of any relationship Vital for relationship maintenance A Difficult skill to master n Can lead to conflict n Chapter 11 Can also lead to stronger relationships Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Men and Communication n n Most men lack adequate communication skills Exposed at an early age to society’s masculine image n n Encourages men to “hide” emotions Unable to “open up, ” due to the risk of corrupting the “macho” image Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Men and Communication n Such an ego results in: n n n Lacking the skills necessary to communicate effectively Lacking the skills necessary to successfully understand non-verbal messages Lacking the skills necessary to successfully interpret non-verbal messages Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Men and Communication n Is employed by sending messages that are interpreted correctly, and correctly interpreting messages that you receive Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

How To Effectively Communicate n Maintain Realistic Expectations n Try not to project a tough/superior image n Avoid Prejudice Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

What Not To Do… Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

What Not To Do…. . n Communicative barriers you might encounter: n Antagonistic messages Jumping to conclusions n Not paying attention n n Chapter 11 i. e. thinking to yourself while someone is talking Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Group Activity #1 Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs n Love Belongingness Safety Security n Value n Recognition n Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

“Agree to Disagree” n It is sometimes difficult to reach agreement during a conversation n n Give your partner time to speak Use “I” messages n n n Chapter 11 Negative consequences: Blame Take it personally Stick to the subject Keep a friendly tone Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Group Activity #2 Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Verbal Messages n n n n Face-to-Face interactions Telephone calls E-mail Letters Poetry Cards Etc. Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Non-Verbal Messages n Gestures: n Shaking your head n Shrugging your shoulders n Turning your back n Sucking your teeth Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Non-Verbal Messages n Facial expressions: n Disappointment Surprised n Raised eyebrows n Confusion n Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Non-Verbal Messages n Behaviors n Isolation Negligence n Denial n Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Group Activity #3 Chapter 11 Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Suitable Situations n Effective communication can be applied: n n n Chapter 11 On deciding where to go on a date On getting to know your partners likes and dislikes On allowing your partner to maintain friendships with people of the opposite sex Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West

Suitable Situations n Effective communication can be applied: n n Chapter 11 To talk to express what you expect of your partner and vice versa When discussing sexual history and beliefs of contraceptives Presentation by: Barika Bridges, Erika Everett, William Pokorny, Raquel Smith, Lindsay West