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The Goals of Parent Coaching • Coaching vs. consulting vs. hovering • Transitioning parents to a new role • Discuss expectations for parent involvement • Set the stage for parent coaching in parent communications (newsletters, emails, websites, etc. ) • Helping parents to be intentional
The Role of AXΩ Staff/Volunteers in Parent Coaching • Can role model coaching in parent interactions. • Parents are involved. • Role of “emerging adulthood” • Can influence parent/student interactions.
Five Core Principles of Parent Coaching • • • LISTEN for Understanding QUESTION to Uncover Ideas PROMOTE Action ENGAGE in Dialogue ENCOURAGE Reflection
Listen for Understanding • AXΩ staff/volunteers can: Listen to parents as they struggle to find the role of coach Listen for patterns to reflect back Listen with a sense of curiosity • Parents can: Refrain from offering solutions. Ask questions to help her delve deeper for meaning. Support their student as she lives in the “gray zone” of life.
Question to Uncover Ideas • AXΩ staff/volunteers can: Practice the skill of questioning before giving direction. Uncover what the parent is struggling with and ask what they want and what is holding them back. Uncover what the parent truly desires. Parents can: Be curious about their student. Practice the skill of questioning. Discover what their student believes, what she is passionate about, and uncover her potential.
Promote Action • AXΩ staff/volunteers can: Be understanding and supportive. Let go of bias. Seek to understand. Promote “coaching” steps. Parents can: Be gentle and supportive. Let go of blame. Seek to understand. Break things down.
Engage in Dialogue • AXΩ staff/volunteers can: Talk with parents, not at them. Listen without judging. Reflect back what parents are saying to clarify for understanding. Dialogue about the role of “parent coach. ” Parents can: Talk with their student, not at them. Listen without judging. Reflect back what their student is saying to clarify understanding.
Encourage Reflection • AXΩ staff/volunteers can: Encourage parents to reflect upon their actions and experiences with their student. Help connect them to the role of “coaching” through reflecting. Ask open-ended questions to get them thinking. Parents can: Encourage the student to reflect upon her experiences. Help connect the reflections to decision-making. Ask open-ended questions.
Advice from the Experts • Always return your phone calls and emails immediately, and never promise anything you don’t intend to follow through on. • Know your organization well and work to create and maintain excellent relationships with all departments, advisors, etc.
• Do not let an exception change a good rule! • Stay in close touch with students. You need to understand them and their relationships with their parents. • Decide for yourself: are parents to be “dealt with” or “worked with? ” You can’t straddle that fence! • Today’s parents are only doing what educators have asked them to do since preschool. Our task is to redirect that relationship! • Patience and perspective are required!