Chapter 8 Sexual Behaviors What is normal Recall

Chapter 8 Sexual Behaviors

What is normal? • Recall that “normal” is different between cultures and changes throughout history. • Statistically normal – a large number of people engage in the behavior. • Normal is actually a range of behaviors. • Most sexual behaviors are considered normal as long as the individual does not suffer physical or psychological damage, does not harm others and the behavior doesn’t interfere with daily life.

Celibacy • Types of Celibacy – Complete celibacy – Partial celibacy

Reasons for or Benefits of Celibacy • Religious, moral beliefs • Waiting for the appropriate person • Learning about other aspects of self • Health considerations • During substance abuse recovery • Lack of a partner

Erotic Dreams • Expression and exploration of desires taking place within the mind • Most males, two thirds females • Nocturnal orgasm

Erotic Fantasy • Can occur during daydreams, masturbation, or during sexual encounters • 95% of women and men fantasize • Fantasy content among heterosexual and nonheterosexual individuals are similar, except for sex of imagined partner

Sexual Fantasy • Function of sexual fantasies – Source of pleasure and arousal – Overcome sexual anxiety – Acceptable expression of socially unacceptable behavior • Gender similarities and differences • Fantasies: Help or Hindrance? – Most research points to helpful

Sexual Fantasies • Women’s fantasies tend to be more romantic and emotional while men’s tend to be more explicit and visual. • Most common is a fantasy of a present, former or imaginary partner. • Four main categories – – Exploratory – never-tried behaviors Intimacy – sex with a known partner Impersonal – sex with strangers Dominance-submission themes

Perspectives on Masturbation • Traditional Condemnation • Viewed as non-procreational – Erroneous health concerns – Freud considered it immature • Contemporary research has established that it is not harmful

Masturbation across History and Culture • Some cultures have condemned self-pleasuring (especially to the point of ejaculation in men) as being harmful to the man and/or against god’s will. • Victorians forced children to wear chastity belts and metal gloves to bed, and circumcision and clitoridectomy became popularized as antimasturbation prevention.

Masturbation across History and Culture • J. H. Kellogg invented cornflakes to be used as an anti-masturbation breakfast food; Dr. Graham invented the graham cracker for the same reason – don’t worry; it doesn’t work. • Orthodox Jews still consider it a major sin. • Some cultures (e. g. followers of Egypt’s ancient god Atum) have honored masturbation, or at least accepted it as a normal behavior.

Recent Attitudes • Former U. S. Surgeon General Jocelyn Elders was fired in 1994 for suggesting that teens consider masturbation instead of premarital sexual intercourse and its health risks. • Sexologists remain puzzled at the fear and anxiety roused by such a innocuous behavior. • Nearly half of Americans who masturbate continue to feel guilty or wrong about it.

Who Masturbates and Why? • Men are more likely to begin masturbating before they begin having sexual intercourse; for women, the reverse is true. • Among today’s college students, twice as many men as women report masturbating. • 2/3 agree that masturbation is a natural part of life and it continues into marriage.

Purposes for Masturbation • Relieves sexual tension • Means of self-exploration • Assists in physical relaxation

Ethnic Differences in Behavior • Only 40% of African-American men masturbated in the past year, while 2/3 of white and Latino men, and slightly fewer Asian-American men did. • White Americans are most likely to engage in oralgenital sex; African-Americans the least likely. • Latino-Americans are the group most likely to engage in anal intercourse.

Manual Stimulation of Genitals • Individual differences with regard to manual stimulation • Most women need consistent touching through orgasm • Men may not like to be touched just after orgasm

Oral-Genital Stimulation • Types: cunnilungus and fellatio • Acceptance varies • More unmarried people engaging in oral sex now than reported in Kinsey’s survey

Oral Sex • 70 -90% of sexually active teens and young adults engage in oral-genital sex. • People tend to become more accepting of a sexual behavior when they learn that it is not abnormal. • Some people worry about cleanliness – people who are healthy and bathe regularly pose no risk. Your mouth carries more germs than your genitals do.

Sources of Unpleasant or Bitter-Tasting Ejaculate

Why Anal Sex? • The anus has numerous nerve endings and is very sensitive to touch; the anal sphincter muscle undergoes rhythmic contractions during orgasm in both men and women. • Anal sex can include – Anal intercourse (penis in anus) – Use of fingers or dildos (insertion or caressing) – Rimming (oral-anal)

Who has Anal Sex? • Among heterosexuals, 20 -26% report having tried anal intercourse (10% have engaged in it within the past year), but numbers may be higher. • This behavior is stigmatized among many heterosexuals because many people think of it as a “gay” behavior. • About 75% of gay males have engaged in anal intercourse within the past year; not all gay men enjoy anal sexual behaviors.

Is Anal Sex Safe? • Many people like the “tighter” sensation, but this means tissues must be forced to stretch. – Be sensitive to your partner’s response. – Lubrication is important for comfort and safety. • Anal intercourse is a high risk behavior for HIV because it is likely that thin rectal membranes will tear a little, allowing infected semen into the bloodstream. Only infected fluids can infect you. – Condoms tear more often during anal intercourse than during vaginal intercourse.

Coitus and Coital Positions • Position variations – Man or woman above – Face-to-face – Side-lying – Rear entry

Coital Variations • Variations are as numerous as a couple’s imagination, flexibility and strength. • A recent survey of college students found that 45% of men preferred woman-on-top; 1/3 of college women also preferred that position – 25% men preferred man-on-top; another 25% preferred man-from-behind – 48% women preferred man-on-top; another 15% preferred man-from-behind

What Is Your Favorite Intercourse Position?

Pros and Cons to Consider • For each position, consider – – – – Is face-to-face contact important to me? Am I able to orgasm in this position? Do I reach orgasm too quickly in this position? Is this position physically comfortable? Are my hands free to touch my partner or myself? Do I feel safe and cared for in this position? How does this position feel to my partner? Has this position become routine for us?

Coital Positions