Chapter 2 Relationships Choosing Abstinence Lesson 1 Relationships

Chapter 2 Relationships & Choosing Abstinence Lesson 1 Relationships & Communication

You’ll learn to… • Evaluate the effects of family relationships on physical, mental/emotional, and social health • Evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers • Demonstrate communication skills that build & maintain healthy relationships

Group Warm-Up • In your groups discuss and list the following: – Why is it important to have communication in any relationship? – Give examples!

Family Ethan Magyar’s family photo 10 years after graduation… That’s Ethan Jr. !

Functions of a healthy family • Families help provide basic physical needs. Ex. food, shelter, care when ill. • Families provide emotional support. • Families provide structure for our lives. Ex. organize activities and schedule times. (families look out for your best interest). Shannon & Family 20 years after graduation!

Family & Friends • Family is the basic unit of society. • Besides ensuring food, clothing, and shelter, family provides guidance to help children learn to function in society. • Families teach us our values. Family portrait of Connor’s Family

Values • Values- the beliefs & standards of conduct that are important to a person • Values are also instilled through cultural heritage, religious beliefs, and family traditions • You apply your values to the decisions that you make everyday.

Group Work • Discuss and list how different cultures influence a person’s values and beliefs. • Give specific examples…

Friends • As we mature we meet people outside our families & we make friends • Friends who share your interests and values can be a source of positive peer pressure

Relationships in Adolescent Years • Forming mature relationships with your peers is important for your social health • Being involved in a variety of school, religious, and community activities can promote your mental/emotional and social growth. Giovanni getting ready for GCIT’s 10 year Reunion

Peer Pressure • As you develop relationships (individual/groups) you probably experience peer pressure. • Peer pressure is the influence that people your age may have on you • Peer pressure can be positive or negative • GIVE ME AN EXAMPLE OF BOTH?

Peer pressure continued… • Peer pressure is especially influential for adolescents with low self-esteem. • In order to feel a sense of belonging, they may engage in high-risk behaviors or activities that go against their values. Connor Jeffery Jonathan Gio Ethan Class of 2021 10 yrs later… with matching mullets! Preston

Dating • Considered an important social activity • Group dates offer teens opportunities to interact with a variety of people, they may feel less nervous. • Steady dating is when two people date each other exclusively.

Group Activity. Dating & Different Cultures • Different cultures have different customs and beliefs when it comes to dating. • Within your groups discuss and list ways Americans date. Do teens still date? And if so, what is the typical teen date today? • What would your “ideal” date be?

Dating Customs Around the World Afghanistan • Dating is rare in Afghanistan because most marriages are arranged by parents, and schools are separate for boys and girls. The opportunities to meet are rare. Girls have a 7: 00 P. M. curfew, while boys have an 11: 00 P. M. curfew. Australia • Most teens go out in large groups and don't pair off until they are 18 or 19 years old in Australia. Girls often ask out boys and pay for the date, too. Couples often go to dinner parties, barbecues, or the beach. Central and South America • Dating is not allowed until the age of 15 here. When of age, most boys and girls date in large groups, going out together to weekend dance parties. When not dancing, teens gather at local clubs to eat and talk. Europe • Dating is usually a group event in Europe. In Finland, as many as 30 teens may attend a movie together. Slumber parties are common in Italy and Switzerland, where teens gather for parties at a home and sleep there when the party is over.

More Dating Customs Around the World • In Spain teens join a pandilla, a club or a group of friends with the same interests, like cycling or hiking. Dating is done one-to-one and both girls and boys ask each other out and split the cost of the evening's entertainment. • In Russia dates take place at dances or at clubs where teens eat or chat with friends. In small towns, teens meet in the streets downtown or gather around a fountain. Iran • It is against the law to date in Iran. Teens are separated until they are of marrying age, then their families introduce them to each other and sometimes a courtship follows. Japan and Korea • In Japan and Korea, most high school students don't date or go to parties, but spend their time studying instead. Dating begins in college, when only boys do the asking and pay for the dates.

Communication • The process through which you send messages to and receive messages from others —is essential to any relationship • Good communication skills will help you keep relationships healthy and mature

Good Communication Skills Means clearly expressing your feelings, thoughts, ideas, and expectations. 1. Use “I” messages to avoid placing blame. 2. Maintain a polite tone in your voice. 3. Speak directly to the person. 4. Provide a clear, organized message that states the situation. 5. Body language should match your words.

Good Listening Skills Good listening skills means listening to what others say. Guidelines for being a good listener: 1. Give your full attention to the person speaking. 2. Focus on the speaker’s message. 3. Indicate your interest. 4. Remember what the speaker had said. 5. Use positive body language.

Communication Activity 1 - Listen To Me!

Communication Activity 2 - Drawing Improves Communication Skills

Conflict • Any disagreement, struggle, or fight. • Most common reasons for a conflict include a lack of communication • When conflicts or disagreements occur relying on T. A. L. K strategy will help reach a peaceful resolution.

T. A. L. K • T- Take time out • A- Allow each person to express his/her opinion uninterrupted • L- Let each person take turns to ask questions and clarify any statements • K- Keep brainstorming to find a good solution

Conflict & Dating • Becoming skilled at “choosing your battles, ” or deciding when it is worthwhile to take, can help you avoid unnecessary conflict. • Good communication is especially important in dating relationships. • Express yourselves honestly and listen to what the other person is saying.

Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships GCIT 2021 Senior Prom Court! Top: Future Boyfriends, Fiances & Hubbies Nice flow, fellas! Bottom: Ky’Anne, Katie, Victoria Pizzi, Victoria Pregnor Solid smile, Tori!

Healthy relationships have the following characteristics: • Talking about your feelings • Respecting date’s friends and activities • Considering the other person’s opinions and feelings • Respecting differences in other persons • Stating differences of opinion • Having an equal say in the relationship • Figuring out a solution that is good for both of you.

KNOW THE SIGNS: Unhealthy relationships have the following characteristics: • Believing one sex has more rights that the other • Shouting or yelling when you are angry at your date • Using the silent treatment • Pestering your date until you get what you want • Pouting to get what you want.

KNOW THE SIGNS: Abusive relationships have the following characteristics: • Dominating and controlling your date’s other relationships/friends and activities • Name calling (putdowns) • Threatening harm • Intimidating be hitting or destroying property • Being extremely jealous and possessive of date • Pushing, hitting, restraining or holding your date against his/her will • Forcing sexual touching or intercourse.

Review Questions 1. Evaluate ways your parents, guardians, and other family members contribute to physical and mental/emotional health and help you establish healthy relationships. 2. Define the term peer pressure and evaluate the positive & negative effects of relationships with peers.

Review Questions continued… 3. List three benefits of dating. 4. Explain & demonstrate the importance of using good communication skills in building & maintaining healthy relationships. Give two examples. 5. Make a list of positive ways you can develop healthy relationships with your peers. Describe specific actions you can take to become a good friend.