CHAPTER 2 Love in Relationships What is love
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CHAPTER 2 Love in Relationships
What is love?
Discussion What are some ways we show love?
Ways of Conceptualizing Love • Love: is about deep abiding feelings • Lust: is about sexual desire & present • Infatuation: is about emotional feeling based on little actual exposure to love object
Romantic Love • Love at first sight, one true love • Excitement, passion • Individuals who fell in love fast had similar marital happiness as couples who fell in love gradually. • Men fall in love more quickly b/c they are visually attracted to young females for reproduction
Realistic Love/ Conjugal Love • • • love between married people companionship calmness comfort security
Romantic vs. Realistic love This photo illustrates • Romantic love (young couple) • Conjugal love(older couple) • Both types of love are good • People in either category can be happy in their relationships
John Lee 1973, 1988 Love Styles Describe the way in which lovers relate to each other
Love Styles Ludic Juggle partners Love d an m e ‘ m e e v ‘ o e L v a e l Manipulative & uncaring
Love Styles l a ic g o L PRAGMA l a n it o a R
Love Styles Most common for College Students EROS LOVE Sexual love
Love Styles Out of control MANIA LOVE e v i s s e s s o P Gehring A T S R E LK
Love Styles g n i th o o S STORGE Lov LOVE e be twe en p erso ns l ong Non sexual mar ried
Love Styles Selfless Love AGAPE LOVE G g n i v i e v lo Love between parent and child
Triangular View of Love by Sternberg 1986 7. Consummate Love Intimacy, passion, commitment on 3. Conjugal Love Intimacy & Commitment Int ima 2. Romantic love Intimacy & Passion ssi 6. Empty Love commitment Pa 1. Nonlove None of the above cy 3 basic elements to love: Intimacy, Passion & Commitment. 4. Liking Intimacy only 5. Fatuous Love Passion & commitment Commitment
Not in book The Need for Intimacy is experiencing the essence of one’s self in intense intellectual, physical, and/or emotional communion with another human being.
How would you feel if your family was in charge of finding you a husband/wife?
*Arranged Marriage • • 40 % of the worlds population arrange marriage Parents arrange 80% of marriages in China, India & Indonesia Focus is on linking the two families together How the couples feel about each other is irrelevant Love will come after marriage Parents will interview suitable partner Parents may put an advertisement in newspaper • Why do some cultures practice arranged marriages? • Do you think that your parents have influence over who date/marry?
Theories on the Origins of Love Evolutionary Theory Love has an evolutionary purpose and creates a bond between parents when their offspring are dependent infants.
Theories on the Origins of Love Learning Theory Emphasizes that love feelings develop in response to certain behaviors occurring in certain contexts. Ex: doing thing for your partner Holding hands, kissing, texting, buying gifts, All of these examples can encourage the development of love. What are some words of endearment used?
Theories on the Origins of Love Sociological Theory : love develops in stages, like a wheel 1. rapport: knowing someone, feeling comfortable w/someone 2. self revelation: each partner reveals intimate thought about yourself, partner, the relationship. 3. mutual dependency: partners are happy being together & their happiness depends on the other. “I’m the happiest when I’m with you! 4. personality need fulfillment: the desire to love and be loved, to trust and be trusted, to support and be supported.
Theories on the Origins of Love Psychosexual Theory(Freud) Love results from blocked biological sexual desires. In reverse – once you had sex love dies
Theories on the Origins of Love Biochemical Theory Suggests that there may be a biochemical basis for love feelings. Oxytocin is a hormone that encourages contractions during childbirth and endears the mother to the suckling infant Referred to as the ‘cuddle chemical’
Theories on the Origins of Love Attachment Theory Emphasizes a primary motivation in life is to be connected with other people.
Falling in LOVE • Society promotes love through popular music, movies, television, and novels. • Probability of being in a relationship is influenced by the cultural ideal of physical appearance. • What are some of today’s standards of beauty for women and men?
Falling in LOVE The individual must be physiologically aroused. Self-esteem and self-disclosure associated with the development of healthy love relationships.
Benefits of Self. Esteem 1. It allows one to be open and honest about both strengths and weaknesses. 2. It allows one to feel generally equal to others. 3. It allows one to take responsibility for one’s own feelings, ideas, mistakes, and failings. 4. It allows for the acceptance of strengths and weaknesses in one’s self and others.
Benefits of Self. Esteem 5. It allows one to validate one’s self and not to expect the partner to do this. 6. It permits one to feel empathy 7. It allows separateness and interdependence, as opposed to fusion and dependence.
8 dimensions of Self-Disclosure 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. backgrounds and history feelings toward the partner feelings toward self feelings about one’s body attitudes toward social issues tastes and interests money and work feelings about friends
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- Types of love
- Love language test
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