Chapter 2 Chapter 2 The Vocation to Marriage

Chapter 2

Chapter 2 The Vocation to Marriage

C ommitment ommunication ommon values God is the Author of Marriage

Some Benefits of Married Life for Women • Less likely to be victims of violent crime • Lower rates of depression than single or cohabiting women for Couples • Changes people’s lifestyles and habits in ways that are personally and socially beneficial • Couples are healthier, happier and enjoy longer lives • More productive, higher incomes, more family time for Children • More likely to stay in school and have fewer behavioral and attendance problems and earn four year degrees • Less likely to struggle with serious emotional illness, depression or suicide for Men • Less likely to engage in criminal behavior when raised by married parents • Married men show the most physical health benefits and suffer the greatest health consequences if they divorce God is the Author of Marriage

Companionship is a special relationship between man and woman that is unique among God’s creatures. God is the Author of Marriage

The Wedding at Cana As Jesus began his public life, he performed his first miracle—at his mother’s request—at the wedding feast at Cana is not only a statement of the goodness of marriage, but a statement that from then on marriage would be an efficacious sign of his presence. God is the Author of Marriage

The Nature of Marriage

Divine Economy The name for the divine plan of salvation. “The ultimate end of the whole divine economy is the entry of God’s creatures into the perfect unity of the Blessed Trinity” (CCC 260). The Nature of Marriage

Four Types of Love Storge Philia is the unconditional, emotional love between family members. is the natural love between friends, often translated as “brotherly love” (e. g. , Philadelphia is “the city of brotherly love”). This love is often expressed through shared values, interests, and activities. Eros Agape is the love associated with the natural feeling of sexual desire. This is the passionate and intense love that often comes with emotion-based romance—and that can often vanish when there is trouble in a relationship. is godly love that is unconditional and unselfish, seeking the good of others first. The Nature of Marriage

Journal Question: Think of a strong marriage that you have witnessed. How has the couple witnessed agape love necessary for a marriage? Why is this type of love important for a marriage?

The Three Promises of Marriage Indissolubility: The promise of permanence. Marriage can not be dissolved and is for life. Fidelity: The spouses promise to give fully to one another such that the two become one. The promise of faithful devotion Fecundity: The promise to be open to children and then to educate and raise the family in Christ’s Church The Promises and Benefits of Marriage

Man complementarity Woman • There are two sexual identities possible for the human person • The two identities complement one another • This leads to fruitfulness • Both sexes reflect the power and tenderness of God with equal dignity in different ways • Humans need each other in their maleness and femaleness Complementarity and Chastity Within Marriage

Unity and Procreation Unity in the sexual act is an expression of deep, mutual self -giving. Children spring from the very heart of the mutual love between spouses, as a fulfillment of this love. Complementarity and Chastity Within Marriage

Theology of the Body Takeaways • The body expresses the person. • The body affirms the goodness of sexuality. • Theology of the Body is a defense of Humanae Vitae. • Theology of the Body is rooted in Catholic tradition. • Theology of the Body is an articulation of the Catholic sacramental worldview Michelangelo's Ignudo 1509 -1510 Complementarity and Chastity Within Marriage

Chastity and Continence Chastity The moral virtue which provides for the successful integration of sexuality within one’s whole identity, leading to the inner unity of the physical and spiritual being. Continence Refraining from use of the sexual faculties and any sexual act through selfcontrol, which is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, and is granted a person through the aid of prayer. Complementarity and Chastity Within Marriage

Offenses Against Chastity Lust disordered desire that prizes sexual pleasure over unitive and procreative purposes Fornication disregards the total gift of self of the sexual act within marriage Masturbation disordered use of a person's sexuality for personal pleasure. Contrary to the understanding of the sexual act within marriage Rape Intrinsically evil act that deeply wounds the respect, freedom and physical and moral integrity to which every person has a right Prostitution gravely sinful act that treats the human person as an object; often leads to other sins Pornography perverts the sexual act reducing people to objects; promotes a selfish view of sexuality Complementarity and Chastity Within Marriage

Dating in Modern Society Dating for Entertainment Dating for Discernment Person you are dating is the source of entertainment. Person you are dating is a potential future spouse in your calling towards marriage. Presents dangers against chastity. There is pressure to Emphasizes respect for the dignity of the other “hook up” and to make emotional, mental and person. physical commitments too soon. Presents dangers against disturbing the peace. There are often dramatic, intense emotional breakups after different expectations are unmet. Emphasizes respect for the dignity of the other person’s family and friends as they get to know all the people in their circle as the potential for marriage is evaluated. From the drama, detraction and calumny can result, harming a person’s reputation and friendships. Also called “courtship, ” this type of relationship respects the need of the man and woman to get to know each other without premature commitments that might cloud judgment. Discerning and Preparing for the Vocation of Marriage

DETRACTION CALUMNY Disclosure of another’s faults and sins, without an objectively valid reason, to persons who did not know about them, thus causing unjust injury to that person’s reputation (see CCC, 2477). A false statement that “harms the reputation of others and gives occasion for false judgments concerning them” (CCC, 2477) Discerning and Preparing for the Vocation of Marriage

References • http: //www. ncregister. com/blog/mark-shea/what-is-sacred-tradition • http: //www. staycatholic. com/7_things_about_theology_of_the_bod y. htm

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