CHANGED HAPPILY EVER AFTER Bill OHanlon Bill OHanlon
CHANGED HAPPILY EVER AFTER Bill O’Hanlon
Bill O’Hanlon, M. S. , LMFT For a downloadable copy of these slides, visit: Bill. OHanlon. com Click Free Stuff Then click Slides The slides will be up for about a month after this presentation
How I Came to Storytelling
Metaphors Meta [across/beyond] + pherien [to carry] ➢ Analogies ➢Stories/anecdotes ➢Double entendres/puns ➢Multiple level communication ➢Symbols ➢Rituals ➢Jokes
Metaphors Be With You Most people function in a storytelling mode. It’s the way we communicate ideas, richly, as well as how we structure our thoughts. . I don’t know anyone who remembers things based upon a string of facts. You remember because you assemble things in a storytelling form. I would argue that genetically our brains are wired for storytelling.
Metaphors Be With You It’s our method of organizing information for presentation to others. I have never known a great teacher, a great political leader or a great military leader who also wasn’t a great storyteller. Education is a storytelling problem. Leadership is a storytelling problem. –Bran Ferren in 12. 1998 of CIO Web Business Magazine
Metaphors Be With You Somewhere in our neuro-physiology, we’ve been hard-wired for story. There is a kind of narrative imperative—we can’t be without stories and we will find them where we can. –George Miller, director of Mad Max movies
CHANGED HAPPILY EVER AFTER Homo Narrans
Purposes of Stories ➢To show understanding and acknowledge people's experience ➢To assess a situation ➢To transfer know-how or resources from one context to another ➢To channel the discussion or guide associations ➢To deal with objections or concerns ➢To introduce new possibilities or frames of reference
Metaphor Warm Up Problems are like______ Therapy is like _______ Conferences are like _____
Metaphor Clusters Argument as war His criticisms were right on target. I demolished his argument. You can't defend such a position. She shot down all my arguments. Money as liquid Liquid assets/frozen assets Cash flow Floating a loan
Metaphor Clusters Time is money I've wasted so much time in this relationship. That saved me a lot of time. Living on borrowed time.
Telling Stories ➢Tell stories that speak to you or touch you ➢Practice, write them down, pre-plan which stories you might tell ➢Notice responses to what you are saying ➢Let your intuition or unconscious help you find the right stories ➢Find a way to collect and remember stories
Elements of Effective Storytelling �Characters (protagonist, antagonist, allies) �Actions �Beginnings, middles and ends; plot �Dialogue �Scene setting (props and location) �Vague enough to allow for identification �Enough specific details (names, places, actions, sensory details, etc. ) � Repetition of phrases, themes, etc. (The rule of three) � Story arc (revisiting the beginning in a new way)
Orange Cheeks Jay O’Callahan
Freckles and Flowers Elizabeth Ellis
The Spastic Colon and The Brick Wall
Class of Problems/Class of Solutions Specific Presenting Problem Context Specific Intervention Analogy Anecdote Transfer to Problem Trance phenomenon Task Interpersonal move (DERIVE) Class of Problems (EVOKE) Class of Solutions (Pattern of experience/resource/skill)
Class of Problems/Class of Solutions Bedwetting (Enuresis) Problem Specific Intervention Baseball/archery Practice handwriting Jacks/Bike riding The strange man [Trance phenomena? ] (DERIVE) Lack of muscle control Transfer to Problem Con (EVOKE) Automatic muscle control
Listening to Clients' Stories "One of the most valuable things we can do to heal one another is listen to each other's stories. " — Rebecca Falls
Listening to Clients' Stories "All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell a story about them. " –Isak Dinesen
Eliciting Clients' Stories • Early childhood memories • Favorite fairy tales • Family stories (about self or family) • Life changing
Listening for Client Metaphors • Metaphor clusters or frames • Life is a battle • Life is a journey • Thoughts as cooking • Spatial metaphors • Sound metaphors • Visual metaphors
Listening for Client Metaphors • Are clients' metaphors useful or empowering? • Do they allow for change?
Listening for Client Metaphors • Shifting metaphors • Expanding metaphors • Challenging metaphors
Unhelpful/Disempowering Stories • Impossibility/discouragin g • Blame • Invalidation • Non-accountability
Helpful/Empowering Stories • Possibility • Validation • Accountability
Listening By Telling Stories • Watching people when you tell stories • Noticing what aspects people respond to • Watching nonverbals • Listening for stories in response to your story
Finding Stories Of Competence and Solution Search in: • Jobs • Other relationships • Hobbies/artistic endeavors
Bringing Coals to Navajos • A perplexing invitation • “Do you know who has it made, Dennis? ”
Storytelling Resources www. storytellingcenter. co m www. storycenter. org www. storyteller. net www. audible. com www. augusthouse. com/ www. talltalesaudio. com/
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