Bullying Definition l Behavior that is intentional hurtful
Bullying Definition l Behavior that is intentional, hurtful and repeated by one or more persons. l Imbalance of power – real or perceived
Bullying Statistics Bully Statistics 2016 -2017 l 15% off all bullying is cyber bullying l 63% of bullying victims do not report it l 160 k students stay home everyday to avoid bullies l 25% off all kids are bullied by other children in school l 2016 saw a 7% increase in bullying from 2015 (Source: http: //www. statisticstats. com/education/bullying-statistics)
Types of Bullying l. Direct l. Indirect l. Cyberbullying
Direct l Physical – hitting, kicking, pushing, stealing, hiding or ruining someone’s things. Making someone do something they don’t want to do. l Verbal – name calling, teasing, insulting, threats.
Indirect l Relationship Bullying – gossiping, spreading rumors and lies about someone. l Social Bullying- leaving someone out on purpose, rejecting, embarrassing someone in public
How does it make the victim feel?
WARNING SIGNS OF BEING BULLIED l Come home with damaged, missing pieces of clothing, books or belongings l Have unexplained cuts, bruises or scratches l Have few, if any friends, with whom he/she spend time l Afraid of going to school, walking to and from school, riding the bus l Do poorly in school l Miss, skip, or drop out of school l Appear sad, anxious, moody, or depressed l Have trouble sleeping l Have low self-esteem
What to do if you suspect that your child is being bullied? Talk to your child: l Tell her/him, you are concerned. l Some direct questions: Are there any kids at school who may be picking on you? l Some indirect questions: Do you have special friends at school? Who are they? Who do you sit with at lunch and on the bus? Do they ever pick on you?
What to do if you suspect that your child is being bullied? Talk to the School Staff l Set up an appointment to talk with the teacher l Share your concerns: How is he/she doing with other kids in the class? Have you noticed if my child has been bullied? l If not satisfied, meet with school counselor or principal
Characteristics of a Bully l Enjoy feelings of power and control l Lack compassion and empathy for their targets l Have difficulty following rules l View violence in a positive way l Want to look tough l Want to be popular l More likely to engage in other problem behaviors later in life, such as criminal activity or alcohol or other drug abuse
Family risk factors for bullying l Lack of adult supervision l Overly permissive parents (no limits, no rules at home) l Violent environment at home l Has a model for violent or bullying behavior
What should I do if my child is bullying others? l l Make it clear to your child that you will not tolerate bullying Develop clear and consistent behavior rules within the family Praise and reinforce your child for following rules Spend more time with your child and monitor his/her activities l Share concerns with the school l Seek for help if you think that your child needs professional intervention
Bullying: CYBER BULLYING • Cyber bullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology. • Electronic technology includes devices such as CELL PHONES, COMPUTERS, and TABLETS as well as communication tools including SOCIAL MEDIA SITES, TEXT MESSAGES, CHAT, and WEBSITES. LOL
Social Networks
How Cyberbullying may work l Repeatedly sending cruel or threatening messages “EVERYONE IN THE SCHOOL HATES YOU” l Posting gossip or rumors l Posting pictures of classmates/friends online ridiculing others or asking others to rate them “SEE THE PICTURES AND VOTE FOR THE UGLIEST GIRL IN THE SCHOOL” l Taking pictures of potential victims in private situations PICTURES TAKEN IN LOCKER ROOMS, BATHROOMS ETC. l Pretending to be someone else and sending information to get that person in trouble l Posting altered pictures
What Parents Can do MODEL HOW TO TREAT OTHERS WITH KINDNESS & RESPECT l Kids learn from adults’ actions. By treating others with kindness and respect, adults show the kids in their lives that there is no place for bullying.
What Parents Can Do COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILD l Talk to your child. It is the most important step to help them understand the importance of Internet safety. l Teach children to be mindful of what they share online and aware of who they interact with. l Help your child feel comfortable coming to you with questions they may have about things they see online. l Encourage your kids to tell you immediately if they, or someone they know, is being cyberbullied.
What Parents Can Do BE AWARE OF WHAT YOUR KIDS ARE DOING ONLINE l Know the sites your kids visit and their online activities. Ask where they’re going, what they’re doing, and who they’re doing it with. l Tell your kids that as a responsible parent you may review their online communications if you think there is reason for concern. Have a sense of what they do online and in texts. Learn about the sites they like. Try out the devices they use. l Ask for their passwords, but tell them you’ll only use them in case of emergency. l Ask to “friend” or “follow” your kids on social media sites or ask another trusted adult to do so.
What Parents Can Do Establish Rules about Technology Use l Establish rules about appropriate use of computers, cell phones, and other technology. Be clear about the amount of time and the sites they can visit. l Help them be smart about what they post or say. Tell them not to share anything that could hurt or embarrass themselves or others. Once something is posted, it is out of their control whether someone else will forward it. l Encourage kids to think about who they want to see the information and pictures they post online. Should complete strangers see it? Real friends only? Friends of friends? Think about how people who aren’t friends could use it. l Children should not have media devices with them when going to bed. Set up a place where devices will remain during the night.
What Parents Can do Change the Privacy Settings on Your Child’s Social Media Pages l By default, most social media pages won’t hide personal information, like birthday, phone number and even the address. l You can fix this issue by going into the privacy settings of their social media pages and changing their page to private. Whether your child has an account with Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter
What Parents Can do l Install Parental Control Software l Among the biggest threats your children face online are pornography, gambling sites and violent videos. l Parental control software that will only expose your children to visual data that you allow.
What Parents Can Do l Examples of Parental Control
What Parents Can Do
Who to Report Incidents? l The school: Let the school know if the incident involves classmates at your child’s school. l The provider of the service: Most services have complaints and abuse policies and you can “report abuse” l The police: If the cyberbullying is a serious and potential criminal offense consider contacting the police.
BULLY-FREE STARTS WITH ME: Personal Responsibility It is up to everyone to take personal responsibility for their behavior at school. How do YOU stand up to bullying behaviors at Summit Hall?
Credits l PBSkids. org l Youtube. com l HRSA. Gov Stop Bullying now campaing
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