What is Bullying? Bullying (noun): repeated acts over time attempting to create or enforce one person's (or group's) power over another person (or group), thus creating an "imbalance of power". • The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power.
What is Bullying? Cyberbullying (noun): willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices
What is Bullying? Anonymity (noun): the act of remaining anonymous; that is, of unknown authorship or origin
TRUE OR FALSE? 1. Bullying is just teasing. T F 2. Some People deserve to be bullied. T F 3. Only boys are bullies. T F 4. People who complain about bullies are babies. T F 5. Bullying is a normal part of growing up. T F 6. Bullies will go away if you ignore them. T F 7. All bullies have a low self-esteem. That’s why they pick on other people. T F 8. It’s tattling to tell an adult when you’re being bullied. T F 9. The best way to deal with a bully is by fighting or trying to get even. T F 10. People who are bullied might hurt for a while, but they’ll get over it.
BULLYING BY THE NUMBERS STATS 160, 000 32% 70% 66% 10 -20% FACTS Estimated number of U. S. students who skip school daily to AVOID being bullied Students who report being bullied at school during the school year Teachers surveyed who say that educators “almost always” intervene when bullying occurs Bullying victims who believe school professionals responded poorly to the bullying they observed Bystanders who provide any real help
So let’s review: How do we know if it’s bullying or teasing? • There is not an imbalance of power with teasing, it is not an intentional way to hurt someone, it isn’t repeated and it definitely doesn’t hurt. What is bullying? • • One-sided – there is an imbalance of power Intentional – happens on purpose Repeated – even when told to stop, the bully continues It hurts feelings-we feel unsafe Bullies want to take away your power (self-esteem); it’s a choice whether to let them or not.
What are the 4 types of bullying? • Physical-using your body to hurt someone else’s body • Verbal-using your words to bully • Social-excluding someone from a friendship or group or a group activity • Cyber-using texts, social media, or the internet to bully *Special Note: All bullying is emotional…because it is designed to hurt feelings. *
What are the 3 types of victims/targets & bystanders • Passive-does nothing • Provocative-incites the bully or bullying • Proactive-does something about the bullying Which is most likely to end the bullying: Proactive
So what do I do if I am a target? Use “HAHASOII” to get out of the situation. • H-Help (Report to an adult…but ask yourself the questions… 1. Is it on purpose? 2. Is it one-sided? 3. Is it repeated? 4. Is it hurtful (do I feel unsafe)? ) • A-Assert Yourself (Stand Tall, Speak in a firm, clear voice, look them in the eye. ) • • H-Humor (This disarms the bully and confuses them. ) A-Avoid (Stay away from them. ) S-Self-talk (Remind yourself you are not what they are saying. Stay positive. ) O-Own It (“Thanks for sharing. ” “That’s awesome. ” This also throws the bully off. ) • I-Ignore (Walk away and don’t show them that they are getting to you. ) • I-Include (Try to find a way to include this person in a positive way. Often times, bullies are feeling left out and do what they can to fit in and be noticed. )
So what do I do if I am a bystander to bullying? Did you know that someone who does something to help stop a bully situation is no longer called a bystander? They are now called an “Upstander”.
Okay, how do I become an Upstander? Thousands of students across the U. S. were surveyed and these are what they said were the best strategies to help them if they were a target of bullying. • Run interference when you see them in a situation. Pull them away. • Help them tell an adult. • The number one thing targets of bullying said was helping was to be supportive to them after the fact. Be their friend. *Special note: Interestingly enough, the old adage of confronting the bully, seems not to work according to the students. It only made things worse. So avoid trying to directly take matters into your own hands. *
The best way to counter this problem is to Take 5! - put down the mouse and step away from the computer. By not reacting and taking the time to calm down, we can avoid becoming a cyberbullying ourselves. What can we do for 5 minutes to help us calm down? Kids have suggested: throwing a baseball or shooting hoops, baking cookies, reading, napping, taking a walk or a run, watching TV, talking to a friend and hugging a stuffed animal.