Biblical Parenting Session 5 Embracing and applying biblical
Biblical Parenting Session #5 Embracing and applying biblical truth in raising our children
The Goal of Parenting l The glory of God (1 Cor. 10: 31, 2 Cor. 5: 9) l Faithfulness
The Priority of Marriage in Parenting l “One-flesh” vs. “not one flesh” relationships (Gen. 2: 24)
Wrong Means & Goals in Parenting l Making children behave l Never telling children “no” – letting them have their way all the time l Sheltering them – “blank slate” approach l Legalistic parenting l Deterministic parenting
A Common Misunderstanding l Prov. 22: 6 - Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. l Lit. – “train up a child in his own way, and when he is old he will not depart from it. ” l Para – “train your child to always get his way, and when he grows up, he’ll still live to always get his way. ” l This verse is a warning, not a promise.
The Means of Parenting l Deut. 6: 4 -9 ¡A godly example (v. 6, cf. Ezra 7: 10, 1 Tim. 4: 16) ¡ “In milieu” instruction (vv. 7 -9) l Eph. 6: 1 -3 ¡ Teaching children that the place of God’s blessing is when they honor and obey
Ephesians 6: 1 -3 It will go well with you Spiritual danger HONOR & OBEY
Ephesians 6: 1 -3 It will go well with you Spiritual danger HONOR & OBEY Dishonors or disobeys
Ephesians 6: 1 -3 It will go well with you Spiritual danger ? HONOR & OBEY Dishonors or disobeys Spiritual danger
Corrective Discipline l Discipline is corrective & restorative, not just punitive. It is designed to train (Heb. 12: 11) l The goal of discipline is to bring a child back into the circle of blessing l Discipline should target the heart, not just deal with behavior l The manner and means must be biblical. l The attitude and heart of the parent must be right before God.
The Means of Parenting l Ephesians 6: 4 ¡ Fathers ¡ Do not provoke your children to anger Lack of marital harmony l Establishing/maintaining a child-centered home l Modeling sinful anger l Consistently disciplining in anger l Scolding l Being inconsistent with discipline l Having double standards l Being legalistic (Making man-made rules equal to God’s law, or a test of spirituality) l Lou Priolo, The Heart of Anger (Calvary press).
The Means of Parenting ¡ Do not provoke your children to anger Not admitting when you are wrong l Constantly finding fault l Parents reversing God given roles l Not listening to the child’s opinion or side of the story l Comparing children to others l Not having time to talk l Not praising the child l Failing to keep promises l Chastising him in front of others l Giving too much freedom l Not giving enough freedom l Making fun of the child l
The Means of Parenting ¡ Do not provoke your children to anger Abusing them physically l Calling them names l Having unrealistic expectations l Showing favoritism toward one child over another l Employing child-training methodologies that are inconsistent with God’s Word l
The Means of Parenting ¡ But bring them up – “nourish” ¡ In the discipline – “training” – “guidance for responsible [Christ-honoring] living” ¡ And instruction – “admonishment, “instruction” – “counsel” ¡ Of the Lord – Christ & the Scriptures are the content My example l “In milieu” times of instruction l Formal times of instruction l Corrective discipline l Participation in the body of Christ l
A Vision for Parenting l Psalm 78
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