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Counseling Topics W 1: what it is, why we need it, who does it? W 2: a model W 3: a process W 4: putting it all together (case studies) 2
Resources 3
What is Counseling? 4
What is Counseling? 5
What is Counseling Jesus’ Ministry 5 -1 Paul’s Epistles: Personal, Intimate, Particular Revelations 2 & 3 “I know this about you…” 6
Isaiah 55 1 “Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; and you who have no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without cost… 10 As the rain and the snow come down from heaven, and do not return to it without watering the earth and making it bud and flourish, so that it yields seed for the sower and bread for the eater, 11 so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it. 12 You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains and hills will burst into song before you, and all the trees of the field will clap their hands. 13 Instead of the thornbush will grow the juniper, and instead of briers the myrtle will grow. This will be for the LORD’s renown, for an everlasting sign, that will endure forever. ” 7
What is Counseling? Person’s Circumstances 8
Counseling Direction Scripture Person’s Circumstances 9
What is Counseling Connecting the gospel to everyday life 10
Why Do We Need Counseling? e need to hear only 1 VOIC 11
Why Do We Need Counseling? Our Need in Creation. Gen. 1: 26 -28 GOD’S VOICE BREATHED MAN’S IMAGE & PURPOSES 12
Why Do We Need Counseling? Our Need Due to the Fall. Gen. 3: 1 -11 GOD’S VOICE vs. SATAN’S VOICE(s) 13
Why Do We Need Counseling? Our Need as Seen in Redemption. 40 years - ‘. . so you will know that I am the Lord your God… Heb. 3: 12 -15 “. . today if you hear his voice…” 14
Redemption is Messy The problem with relationships is that they all take place right smack -dab in the middle of something, and that something is the story of redemption, God’s plan to turn everything in our lives into instruments of Christlike change and growth. You and I never get to be married to a fully sanctified spouse. We will never be in a relationship with a completely mature friend. We will never live next to a neighbor utterly free of the need to grow and change. We will never have selfparenting children. We will never be near people who always think, desire, say, or do the right things. And the reason for all of this is that our relationships are lived between the already and the not yet. From Tripp & Lane, Messy Relationships. 15
Why Do We Need Counseling? One Voice to Answer 3 Common Questions 1. Why do people do what they do? (Human motivation) 2. How does lasting change take place in a person’s life? (Change, development, growth, maturity) 3. How can I be an instrument of change in someone else’s life? (Methodology/process of change) 16
Is One Voice Sufficient? Sufficiency speaks to scripture’s purposes and ends. Scripture is sufficient to bring people to an understanding of our salvation through Christ (2 Tim. 3: 14 -15). Scripture is also sufficient to produce holiness through Christ by way of teaching, reproof, correction, and training (2 Tim. 3: 16). The result is a competent and equipped man of God (2 Tim. 3: 17). 17
7 Sufficient Truths of Scripture 1. Orients you in a world that can be disorienting with a heart that generates disorientation. 2. Highlights what is at stake as we encounter sin and misery 3. Reveals Himself 4. Reveals His Purposes 5. Identifies our movement toward or away from God 6. Helps people love well and wisely 7. Helps people make sense of the world they inhabit. 18
Why Do We Counsel? 1. to fix problems effectively? 2. to give people the peace they deserve? 3. to know when to quote a relevant Scripture? 19
Why Do We Counsel? To proclaim Jesus, warning everyone and teaching everyone with all wisdom, that we may present everyone mature in Christ. (Col. 1: 28) 20
Who Counsels? Pastor? Therapist? MC Leaders? 21
Who Does Counseling? Ephesians 4: 11 -16 Mark 8: 34 -35 22
Consider Works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, things like these. (Galatians 5: 19 -21) 23 and
Counseling Direction Scripture Person’s Circumstances 24
Counseling Direction Helps Avoid Sin & Idol Hunting Scripture Person’s Circumstances 25
What Does Change Look Like? Change then is defined by our trajectory towards the gospel than in the attainment of final victory. 26
What is Counseling? 27
Reflection 1. In what ways have you become too easily satisfied with who you are as a sinner? 2. Why is it easier to “help others change” than it is to confess to your own sin? 28
Exercise 1. Describe a recent time when God’s word revealed your spiritual blindness. What did you learn about your need for such help? If you were helped by a person, what did he or she do to make it a positive or negative experience? 2. What things keep you from being approachable (being helped)? 3. What things keep you from reaching out (helping)? Ask the Lord to help you in these areas and repent where appropriate. 29
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Resources Organizations. Christian Counseling & Education Foundation (website) Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (website) Association of Biblical Counselors (website) Biblical Counseling Coalition: collaboration of ABC, ACBC, CCEF staff (website) Introductory Discussions Biblical Counseling Strengths & Weakness (CCEF Video) Biblical Counseling & Psychiatric Drugs (CCEF Video) Presentation for “Counseling the Word”, (Video) Instruments in the Redeemers Hands, Paul Tripp Ministries (Website) 31
Intro to Week 3 32
Sobering Challenge “We’ve learned to coexist with people whom we disagree. We value that peace. But I’m afraid the danger is that we value it so much that we’re willing to obscure the gospel itself. We have to be careful of speaking about unity when we really don’t have it. At times I think we believe we have more unity than we actually have”. –R. C. Sproul, “What is the Church? ” 33
Listening Exercise Spouse critical “big” events (follow shame) body language feelings & metaphors belief about God 35 Neighbor MC
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What if all your relationships were held up as beautiful but mysterious?
Do you feel like you can come home - no matter the sin?
Hospitality has power and risk
Just how much diversity do you want?
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