Better Husbands Better Wives 1 Peter 3 1
Better Husbands & Better Wives 1 Peter 3: 1 -7
C O N T E X T Neither are Christians (Bad husband - bad wife) She Obeys Gospel (Better wife - poor husband) Her example converts him (Better husband - Better wife) Responsibilities are part of being holy (1: 15 -16)
1 ¶ Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2 when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3 Do not let your adornment be merely outward--arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-4 rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5 For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6 as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror. 7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
Better Wives (vv. 1 -6) Priority/Emphasis: Spiritual
Priority / Emphasis Spiritual • Fears & Trust in God (vv. 2, 5) • Concerned About Husband’s Soul (vv. 1 -2) • Pure (v. 2) • Focus on Inward - Not Outward (vv. 3 -6)
Not: But: Labor for meat that perishes (Jno. 6: 27) Labor for meat that endures (Jno. 6: 27) Not: But: Outward adorning hair/gold/apparel (1 Pet. 3: 3) Hidden person of Heart (Jno. 6: 27)
Better Wives (vv. 1 -6) Priority/Emphasis: Spiritual Respects Her Husband
Respects Her Husband • Submits to Him / Obeys (vv. 1, 6) • As her “Lord” [leader] (v. 6) • Fear (v. 2)
Better Wives (vv. 1 -6) Priority/Emphasis: Spiritual Respects Her Husband Disciplined
Disciplined • Watches What She Says (v. 1) • Watches Her Example At Home (vv. 1 -2) • Sincere (v. 4) • Gentle & Quiet Spirit (v. 4)
Better Husbands (v. 7) Priority: Relationship to God
Priority: Relationship to God • Motive: That Prayers - Not Hindered • Concern: How His Relationship to God is Affected • What Godly woman would not want to follow such man?
Better Husbands (v. 7) Priority: Relationship to God Leader
Leader • Takes Responsibility • Leads with Understanding & Respect
Better Husbands (v. 7) Priority: Relationship to God Leader Respects His Wife
Respects His Wife • Understanding • Honors Her • Weaker Vessel • Views Her as an Equal
Better Marriages God’s Word Is The Standard
God’s Word Is The Standard • Not: > Own concepts > What everyone else does • Means: Different / Hard / Change
Better Marriages God’s Word Is The Standard Communicate
Communicate • Evidence: ü He leads - she submits ü He understands • Means: üTalk & Discuss rather than fuss & fume ü Agree before they act
Better Marriages God’s Word Is The Standard Communicate Thinking of The Other
Thinking of the Other • She: > Yields to his leadership > Concerned about his soul • He: > Wants to understand her > Views her as precious vessel • Practice: > Self Denial (Mark 8: 34) > Golden Rule (Matt. 7: 12; Phil. 2: 4)
Better Husbands & Better Wives (vv. 1 -6) Better Husbands (v. 7) Better Marriages
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