Be Proactive Based on the work of Stephen

Be Proactive Based on the work of Stephen Covey

What happens to a bottle of soda when you shake it up? It EXPLODES!

Journal Entry or Discussion Starter: Sometimes things go wrong, and we feel shaken up. As a result, we might EXPLODE on someone or something. This is called being REACTIVE. Has this ever happened to you? Explain what happened and why. Was this a good way to let go of all of your feelings? Why or why not?

When you are PROACTIVE, you make a choice about how you react to the things that happen in your life. You act like a water bottle. You might get shaken up or mad, but you stay calm and don’t explode!

Journal Entry or Discussion Starter: Is it hard to stay calm (like a water bottle) even when things don’t go your way? Why or why not? What steps could you take to be more PROACTIVE and calm when things aren’t going well?

Proactive vs. Reactive When you are PROACTIVE, you make good choices about how you respond to something happening. You are always ready with a calm attitude. You do things to make sure that the right things will happen. You are prepared for anything that might happen. When things don’t go your way, you aren’t happy, BUT you stay calm. When you are REACTIVE, you could explode at any minute. Things happen and they “catch you off guard”. You aren’t ready for things that might happen. You deal with things when they happen instead of being prepared.

Where do you fall? Very Reactive Proactive How could you be more proactive?

How do you feel on days like this?

What about sunny days like this?

If you could “carry the weather with you”…. you could have a good day no matter what comes your way.

Journal Entry or Discussion Starter: Do you think it is possible to carry your weather with you? What do you think this means? How would your life be different if you could carry happiness or peace with you no matter what things happen?

Circle of Influence Things you can’t control circle of influence concern Things you can control or change Focus on things you can change or influence

Circle of Influence Things you CAN’T control or change: Things you CAN control or change: • Other people • Your attitude • The weather • Your mood • Things you did wrong in the past • Your reaction to good and bad things that happen • How other people treat me • Homework • How I treat other people Can you think of other examples from your life?

• • Proactive people are a different breed. Proactive people: Are not easily offended Take responsibility for their choices Think before they act Bounce back when something bad happens Always find a way to make it happen Focus on things they can do something about, and don’t worry about things they can’t

Be Proactive • Change how you handle things. Make a choice to be positive and focus on those things that YOU can change. • Make a positive difference in your family, your class, your school and the world!

• We cannot control everything that happens to us, but we CAN control how we react to things. • Don’t keep worrying about things that you can’t control. Focus on the things that you can do. • The things you can control are your responses, choices, yourselves, and your attitude.

• When someone is rude to you, or you’re just upset, what do you do? • The answer is to just “push pause” (the button located in the middle of your forehead). • If you can learn to pause, get control, and think about how you want to respond, you’ll make smarter choices.

Victimitis What is victimitis? It can be one of the worst things. It can be quite contagious. It’s when someone believes that everyone has it in for them and that the world owes them something. This is a trait that some reactive people can have.

Turn setbacks into triumphs • When something bad happens, don’t keep thinking about things you’ve lost think about the stuff you still have.

~Power Tools~ • Power tools are a great thing. You can make good decisions if you think about them. Here they are: • Self-awareness- I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions. • Conscience- I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong • Imagination- I can envision new possibilities • Willpower- I have the power to choose

Credits: This slide show was created by Rebecca Radicchi using the following resources. 1. The Seven Habits For Highly Effective People By Stephen Covey 2. The Seven Habits For Highly Effective Kids By Sean Covey 3. The Seven Habits For Highly Effective Teens By Sean Covey

Credits: And few slides By: kennedy Schliecer, Michelle Huang using the following resource The Seven Habits For Highly Effective Teens By Sean Covey