Be A Mentor Inc New Mentor Training 1260

Be A Mentor, Inc. New Mentor Training 1260 B street, #375 Hayward CA, 94541 (510) 795 -6488

Training Guidelines Maintain Confidentiality n Be here now-No cell phones n Respect differences n Refer back to training guide n HAVE FUN!!! n

What is today’s training about? Better understanding issues and factors facing our youth today. n Understand the role of a mentor. n Understand demonstrate practices of a skilled mentor: n

What is the Project Manager’s Job (My Job)? n Recruit and Interview the Youth (or Mentee) n Interview Mentors n Complete Paperwork n Hold Match Meeting n Monitor the Quality of Match

Why Youth Need Mentors n n n n Peer Pressure Substance Abuse Sexuality Social Skills Child Abuse Family Violence Anger Management n n n n Depression/Suicide Nutrition & Health Home Pressure Goal Setting Part-time Work Failing Grades Absenteeism

From The Kid’s Eyes! Forget about what YOU think a youth needs. Why would a young person want to be friends with you?

Our Youth Say a Mentor Is… n n n n Easy to talk to A role model/Someone to look up to Is a friend Shows us new things Is not a parent Does not judge us Is understanding Is FUN! n n n n n Won’t get mad Has Knowledge Encourages us Listens to us Is open-minded Is sympathetic Is trustworthy Gives guidance Respects us

Role of the Mentor Academic Help n Goal Setting n Career Exploration Assistance n Emotional Support n Exposure to new things n

Skills of an Effective Mentor Respects Youth Viewpoints Focus on the positive Allows Youth to Make Mistakes An Effective Mentor un F Has Communicates Constantly Keeps Relationships Alive Involves Youth in Decisions I Com s mit ted

TOP 5 Mentoring Mistakes 1. Doesn’t maintain boundries 2. Sporadic Meetings 3. Authority Figure/Transform Youth 4. Demands/expects Equal Participation 5. Does not ask for help from Project Manager (Be A Mentor Staff)

Stages in Relationship – It’s a Rollercoaster Ride! ie Te s nd sh ti n ip st g Tr u ” n o o m y e n o “H iod Per Fr

Culture n n n Cultures are multifaceted: Family structure, Spirituality, Language, Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed. (not skin color, language spoke or food eaten) Foster Care and Children of Prisoners Culture?

Login Hours and Activities www. beamentor. org • Login • Email address • Password • Activity Form • Select a mentee • Activity Date • Time • Comments

Mentor Commitment Averaging once a week visits n Weekly telephone contact n Document activities/hours n Keeps contact with parents n Attend Mentor Support Meetings n Attend mentor events n

Confidentiality When do I break it? n How should I break it? n

Thank You 4 Coming! Please, Help Make Us Better! n Take a few minutes to fill out an evaluation n