Bakersfield Womens Business Conference Our Vital Voices Speaking

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WORKSHOP FOCUS lauragmeinder. com/BWBC 2018 1. IDENTIFY your communication style 2. DISCOVER the ways that you are holding yourself back- and what to do instead. 3. Be EMPOWERED to advocate for YOU.

Childhood Messages

FINDING YOUR VITAL VOICE What Matters to You? Leverage Your Network Be Fear Less Be Candid Embrace Your Style

PART ONE IDENTIFY Your Communication Style

ACTIVITY: Say What? Communication Assessment DIRECTIONS: 1. Review the options in each row. Choose a statement that best describes you. Go with your instinct. 2. Total each column at the bottom based on how many phrases in each column you selected. Circle the total with the highest number. Tie? Review both lists and choose the one most like you.

Communication Styles (Psychiatrist Carl Jung) THINKER FEELER SENSOR INTUITOR

HOW TO RECOGNIZE A THINKER • THINKERS play by numbers and facts. • They are logical and realistic. • She will pop any idealistic balloon by citing a similar situation in which someone failed. FAMOUS THINKERS?

HOW TO RECOGNIZE A FEELER • FEELERs are empathic and want to connect, make you comfortable. • If you're struggling she will try to figure out a way to help you. • Wants to be popular/ in-the-know FAMOUS FEELERS?

HOW TO RECOGNIZE A SENSOR • A SENSOR labors under the constant pressure of deadlines. • They do everything -- including communicating with you -- in bursts of very intense energy. • The Sensor has a short attention span and can make you feel as if you're taking up too much of her time just by saying hello. FAMOUS SENSORS?

HOW TO RECOGNIZE AN INTUITOR • INTUITORs have big ideas that you have a hard time understanding. • Presents information minus key details. • When you ask questions, she gets impatient/ annoyed. FAMOUS INTUITORS?

Communicating When You Are Stressed

PART TWO DISCOVER the ways that you are talking about yourself (or your needs and wants) that are holding you backand what to do instead.

ACTIVITY: Say What You Mean, DIRECTIONS: Mean What You Say 1. Each card has a word or a phrase that women often use. When you read that phrase: • What is being communicated? How does/doesn’t it position someone as a leader? • What is the woman telling someone about herself?

Speaking While Female SNL “Weekend Update” January 13, 2018

How to Improve Communication? 1. 2. 3. 4. Hit Pause & Plan Consider Styles Visualize Manage Fight/ Flight / Freeze 5. Use Your Intuition 6. Listen to Understand 7. Harness Empathy 8. Use “I” vs “You” Statements 9. Mirror Body Language 10. Respect

PART THREE Be EMPOWERED to advocate for YOU.

Each time a woman stands up for herself, without knowing it possibly, without claiming it, she stands up for ALL women. ~ Maya Angelou

How Do You Want to ~ Amy Cudy Show Up? Social Psychologist 1. Is this person warm? Are they trustworthy, good- natured? 2. Is this person competent? Are they clever and likely to be effective in achieving their aims?

No Makes Way For YES!

“No” Substitutes: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. Via @womenuer Not in a position to accept that Unfortunately I can’t say yes to that Will need to decline this for now Let’s revisit this at a future date I’d be happy to refer someone who’d agree to this Appreciate it but I have to pass I respectfully decline No.

COURAGE “To speak one’s MIND by telling one’s HEART ”

Why Do We Hold Ourselves Back? The FEAR of not being enough and the FEAR of being “too much” are exactly the same FEAR… The FEAR of being YOU!

A New You Starts Now: Bring the ACTION

You get in life what you have the COURAGE to ask for ~ Oprah Winfrey

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