Listening Orientation “The Therapist’s Hypothesis” Capacity for self-insight, problem-solving, growth resides primarily in the speaker
How does this person see themselves and their situation?
Orientation of the listener: Empathy Acceptance Congruence Concreteness
Reflective technique 1. Increase the listener’s understanding of the other 2. Help the other clarify their thoughts 3. Reassure the other that someone is willing to attend to his/her point of view.
Principles of reflective listening • More listening than talking • Responding to what is personal • Restating and clarifying what is said
Principles of reflective listening • More listening than talking • Responding to what is personal • Restating and clarifying what is said • Trying to understand the feelings contained in what the other is saying • Working to develop sense of the other’s frame of reference
Principles of reflective listening • More listening than talking • Responding to what is personal • Restating and clarifying what is said • Trying to understand the feelings contained in what the other is saying • Working to develop sense of the other’s frame of reference Respond with acceptance and empathy