7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Habit 1

7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens: Habit 1 - 2 Intrinsic & Extrinsic Motivation

Habit 1: You are the Driver, Not the Passenger

Habit 1: Be Proactive • Proactive people make choices based on values

Habit 1: Be Proactive • They think before they act

Habit 1: Be Proactive • Know they can’t control everything, but you can control what you do about it

Habit 1: Be Proactive • Calm, cool and controlled

Habit 1: Reactive Qualities • Take no responsibility for life • Reactive people make choices based on impulse

Habit 1: Reactive Qualities • Like a can of soda pop—if life shakes them up a bit, the pressure builds and they explode

Habit 1: Reactive Qualities • Reactive people are victims – Parents – Stupid teachers – Lousy neighborhood – Boyfriend or girlfriend – Government – Something or somebody else

Habit 1: Reactive Qualities • Act like an animal – If hungry, eat – If someone yells, yell back – If feel like doing something wrong, just do it

Habit 1: Reactive Qualities • Struggle with communicating fear of life

Habit 1: Scenario • Your parents discover your math grade recently went from an 80 to a 69 • REACTIVE RESPONSES – Lie to them and tell them you worked harder than you really did – Tell them you have a bad teacher and you can’t learn the way they teach – Yell at them and blame them for always being quick to point out your faults

Habit 1: Scenario • Your parents discover your math grade recently went from an 80 to a 69 • PROACTIVE RESPONSES – Tell them you made some bad choices with your class and study time and hold yourself accountable to improving your habits – Tell them that you struggle with learning from your teacher; work out a plan to talk to your teacher privately – Tell them that this class is really hard and you need help figuring out what to do

Habit 1: Circle of Control • • Myself Choices Responses Attitudes

Habit 1: Circle of Control • How do you respond to what happens to you? • What is beyond your circle of control?

Habit 1: Circle of Control • What happens when you spend your time and energy worrying about something you can’t control? • Answer: Feel more out of control

Habit 2: Since You’re the Driver, Decide Where You Want to Go & Draw a Map to Get There

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind • Develop a clear picture of where you want to go in life

Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind • Decide what your values are • Set goals

Habit 2: Personal Mission Statement • Personal credo or motto that states what your life is about • Blueprint for your life • Gives direction & focus

Habit 2: Personal Mission Statement • “…Life is a mission, not a career. A career is a profession. A mission is a cause. • A career asks, “What’s in it for me? ” • A mission asks, “How can I make a difference? ” –S. Covey, 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens • Stable, alive and continually growing

Habit 2: Mission Statement Examples

Habit 2: Mission Statement Examples

Intrinsic Motivation • Something you do because you enjoy doing it • Reward is inside

Extrinsic Motivation • Something you do and may not have any interest in doing • The reward is external • Required for life

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