10 MIKE MAZZALONGO Blended Families Part 1 Blended

10 MIKE MAZZALONGO Blended Families Part 1

Blended Family - Statistics • 48% of all first marriages end in divorce. • 79% women and 89% men remarry • 68% of remarriages have children from previous marriages - thebondedfamily. com

Blended Family - Statistics • 21 New blended families formed every day in U. S. • Less than 12% divorced or single parents go too church because they, “…don’t feel the church cares about their broken lives. ” - thebondedfamily. com

Blended Family – Biblical Examples • Jacob and two wives

Blended Family – Today’s Examples • Subsequent marriages

Blended Family – Today’s Examples • Subsequent marriages • Single parents with multi-partner children

Blended Family – Today’s Examples • Subsequent marriages • Single parents with multi-partner children • Grandparents raising grandchildren

Blended Family – Today’s Examples • Subsequent marriages • Single parents with multi-partner children • Grandparents raising grandchildren • Multigenerational – Adoptive situations, group homes

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. Immaturity

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. Immaturity 2. Sex

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. Immaturity 2. Sex 3. Marriage Prep

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Immaturity Sex Marriage Prep In-laws

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Immaturity Sex Marriage Prep In-laws 5. Values conflict

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Immaturity Sex Marriage Prep In-laws 5. Values conflict 6. Adjustment problems

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Immaturity Sex Marriage Prep In-laws 5. Values conflict 6. Adjustment problems 7. Child rearing

Reasons for Divorce in First Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Immaturity Sex Marriage Prep In-laws 5. 6. 7. 8. Values conflict Adjustment problems Child rearing Finances

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages 1. Child Rearing

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages 1. Child Rearing 2. Finances

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages 1. Child Rearing 2. Finances 3. Relatives

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. Child Rearing Finances Relatives Values

Reasons for Divorce in Second Marriages 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. Child Rearing Finances Relatives Values Sharing of Tasks

Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. 13 - Philippians 3: 13 -14

How To Prepare – Philippians 3: 13 -14 1. Know Your Mate and Children

How To Prepare – Philippians 3: 13 -14 1. Know Your Mate and Children 2. Understand Children’s Needs

How To Prepare – Philippians 3: 13 -14 1. Know Your Mate and Children 2. Understand Children’s Needs 3. Build a New Relationship

How To Prepare – Philippians 3: 13 -14 1. Know Your Mate and Children 2. Understand Children’s Needs 3. Build a New Relationship 4. Include Everyone

Arriving at Unity

Arriving at Unity 1. Avoid Co-Conductor System

Arriving at Unity 1. Avoid Co-Conductor System 2. Give Up Previous Role

Arriving at Unity 1. Avoid Co-Conductor System 2. Give Up Previous Role 3. Establish Ground Rules

Ground Rules • Courtesy

Ground Rules • Courtesy • Family Rules

Ground Rules • Courtesy • Family Rules • Fairness

Ground Rules • Courtesy • Family Rules • Fairness • Division of Labor

Ground Rules • • Courtesy Family Rules Fairness Division of Labor • Spiritual Goals

Only Jesus can make two into one.