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Life Attitudes • Win-Lose –These people achieve what they want at the expense of others. C. S. Lewis wrote “Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. • Lose-Win-People with a lose-win mindset are easily intimidated and readily give in or go along with others: they fail to assert their own thoughts and feelings. • Lose- People with this model, approach differences with fear. They avoid conflicts, which therefore cannot be resolved, and everybody loses. “If I’m going down, you are going down with me. Examples: War, possessive relationships. • Win- These people believe that everyone can win; there is more than enough to go around for everyone, when each person’s needs and interests are understood and respected. It’s possible to find a solution that benefits and considers everyone. 2

What is a Win-Win Attitude? • Win/Win is not a personality technique. It’s a total paradigm of human interaction. • It comes from a character of integrity, maturity, and the Abundance Mentality. • It grows out of high-trust relationships. • It is embodied in agreements that effectively clarify and manage expectations as well as accomplishment. • It thrives in supportive systems. 4

people- This is like an endless buffet. The more giving you are, the more that comes back to you. Win-Win is an attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that says I can win, and so can you. It’s not me or you; it is both of us. It is the foundation for getting along well with other people. It begins with the belief that we are all equal, and that 5

Ø Ø Ø Win/Win seeks mutual benefits in all human interactions. Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial. Win/Win is the belief that it’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way 6

Win/Lose • Win/Lose states If I win you lose. • In Leadership style, Win/Lose is a authoritarian approach. • Win/Lose people are prone to use position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get their way. • Always filling your heart with negative feelings.

q. It never pays off in the long run. q. Makes you competitive. Negative with losing attitude STAY STRONG YOU WILL SURVIVE WHATEVER GETS THROWN IN YOUR WAY. q. You cant cut every negative thing out of your life but you can find ways to survive them.

Lose/Win Wipe your feet on me like everyone else does Lose/Win stands for no demands, no expectations, no vision. People who think Lose/Win are usually quick to please or appease. They seek strength from popularity or acceptance. Lose/Win people have little courage to express their own feelings and convictions and are easily intimidated by the ego strength of others.

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Lose/Lose n n n Downward spiral “If I'm going down, you're going down with me. ” When two Win/Lose determine, stubborn, ego-invested individuals interact-the result will be Lose/Lose. Both will become vindictive and want to “get back” or “get even, ” blind to the fact that murder is suicide, that revenge is a two-edged sword. Lose/Lose is the philosophy of the highly dependent person without inner direction who is miserable and thinks everyone else should be, too.

WIN People with the Win mentality don’t necessarily want someone else to lose. That’s irrelevant. What matters is that they get what they want. Win mentality thinks in terms of securing his own ends-and leaving it to others to secure theirs.

THREATENED BY OTHERS NOT REALLY HAPPY WITH THEIR SUCCESS WINNING IT ALL BEGINS WITH YOU

WIN/WIN OR NO DEAL q Win/Win is an attitude towards life, a mental frame of mind that says, “I can win, and so can you. q No Deal basically means that if we can’t find a solution that would benefit us both, we agree to disagreeably-No Deal. q No expectations have been created, no performance contracts established. WE ARE ALL

THINK WIN/WIN! Win/Win seeks mutual benefits in all human interactions. Win/Win means that agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial. Win/Win is the belief that it’s not your way or my way; it’s a better way, a higher way 15

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THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN DO TO ENCOURAGE THE WIN-WIN ATTITUDE • Get control of your life. • Improve your relationships with your friends. • Make smarter decisions. • Get along with your parents. • Define your values and what matters most to you. • Get more done in less time. • Increase your self-confidence. Find balance between school, work, friends, and everything else.

Our Personal Bank Account 1. I helped my uncle at his job, and I got paid. 2. I helped my grandma clean around her house, she made me soup. 3. I helped my mom make desert and

If he is willing to put his life at risk at achieve his goals, we can make it through little problems every now and then. You have to break a little ice to make it to the top 19

The teenage years are a very stressful time. Problems arise daily. We cannot totally cure the problems of life; we can only manage them. 20

Our habits will either make us or break us. We become what we repeatedly do. As writer Samuel Smiles put it: Sow a thought, and you reap an act; Sow an act and you reap a habit; Sow a habit and you reap a character; Sow a character and you reap a destiny. 21

The paths you choose now can affect you forever. If you don’t decide your own future, someone else will do it for you. A personal mission statement is like a personal motto that states what your life is about. It is like the blueprint to your life. Go for the Goal. Once you have your mission in place, you should set goals. Goals are more specific than a mission statement, and can help you break down your mission statement into bite size pieces. 22

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