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1 Corinthians 7 ãMarriage, Sex, & Divorce

1 Corinthians 7 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is okay

1 Corinthians 7 ? 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is

1 Corinthians 7 3 Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and

1 Corinthians 7 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and

1 Corinthians 7 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But

26 I think then that this is good in view of the present distress,

1 Corinthians 7 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It

1 Corinthians 7 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but

1 Corinthians 7 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord):

1 Corinthians 7 14 For the unbelieving husband has been set apart through his

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let To be set apart

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him

Children of Divorce at Risk: Substance abuse ãStudy of 174 children in 91 families

Children of Divorce at Risk: Self Concept ãCanadian study of 150 undergrad students ãCompared

Children of Divorce at Risk: Overall Adjustment ãA longitudinal study for the Society for

Children of Divorce at Risk: Parental Relations ãResearch summary by B. Melnyk, University of

Children of Divorce at Risk: Socioeconomic Attainment ãA longitudinal study by U. of Nebraska

Children of Divorce at Risk: Socioeconomic Attainment ã“Only a modest proportion” of the difference

Children of Divorce at Risk: Adult Depression ãA longitudinal statistical study at the University

1 Corinthians 7 10 To the married I give this Several points clear: command

ãU. S. Department of Health, Education and Welfare; Public Health Service, National Center for

“the average duration of marriage before divorce is only half as long for the

ãA deeper, fundamental problem: ãWe believe changing our circumstances will “fix” our lives

1 Corinthians 7 17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that

1 Corinthians 7 18 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He

1 Corinthians 7 19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were

1 Corinthians 7 24 Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in

Application ãTo the Married: ãMal 2: 16 “I hate divorce, ” says the Lord

Application ãTo the Unmarried: ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind out his purpose

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God Able

Application ãTo the Divorced: ãFind out what your contribution was ãDon’t think affluence will

Next Time ãSelf-giving love in a pluralistic culture

Marriage etc. ãComments? ãQuestions? ãExperiences?

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1 Corinthians 7 ãMarriage, Sex, & Divorce

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1 Corinthians 7 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is okay for a man not to marry. 2 But to avoid immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is okay for a man not to marry. Good to be single 2 But to avoid immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7 ? 1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is okay for a man not to marry. Good to be single 2 But to avoid immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. Good to be married

1 Corinthians 7 3 Let the husband fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.

1 Corinthians 7 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.

1 Corinthians 7 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.

1 Corinthians 7 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Paul was a celibate

1 Corinthians 7 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Paul was a celibate There is a gift of celibacy, and a gift of marriage

1 Corinthians 7 7 I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Why does he favor celibacy in this passage?

26 I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 7 I wish that all men were as I am. 1 Corinthians 7 But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Why does he favor celibacy in this passage?

26 I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27 7 I wish that all men were as I am. Are you bound to a wife? Do But each man has his own gift from not seek to be released. Are God; one has this gift, another has you released from a wife? that. Do not seek a wife. 28 But if Why does he favor you should marry, you have celibacy in this not sinned; and if a virgin should marry, she has not passage? sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. 1 Corinthians 7

1 Corinthians 7 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is okay for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

1 Corinthians 7 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife should not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband should not divorce his wife.

26 I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27 10 To the married I give this Are you bound to a wife? Do command (not I, but the Lord): A not seek to be released. Are wife should not separate from her you released from a wife? husband. 11 But if she does, she Do not seek a wife. 28 But if should remain unmarried or else be you should marry, you have reconciled to her husband. And a not sinned; and if a virgin husband should not divorce his wife. should marry, she has not Some think this refers to sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am separation, not divorce trying to spare you. 1 Corinthians 7

26 I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27 10 To the married I give this Are you bound to a wife? Do command (not I, but the Lord): A not seek to be released. Are wife should not separate from her you released from a wife? husband. 11 But if she does, she Do not seek a wife. 28 But if should remain unmarried or else be you should marry, you have reconciled to her husband. And a not sinned ; and if a virgin husband should not divorce his wife. should marry, she has not Some think this refers to sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am separation, not divorce trying to spare you. 1 Corinthians 7

1 Corinthians 7 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she should not divorce him.

1 Corinthians 7 14 For the unbelieving husband has been set apart through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been set apart through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be [like other kids], but as it is, they are set apart.

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let To be set apart is not a him do so. A believing man or guarantee they will come woman is not bound in such to know the Lord circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to - breaking a promise live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to - breaking a promise live in peace. 16 How do you know, - breaking a picture wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to - breaking a promise live in peace. 16 How do you know, - breaking a picture wife, whether you will save your - harmful to children husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Children of Divorce at Risk: Substance abuse ãStudy of 174 children in 91 families 1992 ã“The incidence of substance abuse in offspring was associated with parental divorce. ” ãChildren of divorce had “seven times the risk for developing substance abuse disorder” » Columbia Univ. & NY Psych. Institute. Myrna Weissman et. al, “Incidence of Psychiatric Disorder in Offspring at High and Low Risk for Depression, ” JAACAP #31 [1992]: 640 -648

Children of Divorce at Risk: Self Concept ãCanadian study of 150 undergrad students ãCompared to children of single parent families, children of intact families: ãhold a more “robust over-all academic selfconcept” ãhad stronger “social self-concept” ãhad better relationships with same sex, opposite sex, and parents ãhad more favorable “emotional selfconcept” – Rashmi Garg, “Academic and non-Academic Self-Concepts: Influence of Recent Life-Change Experiences and Demographic Social, and Health Variables, ” Psychological Reports 70 [1991]: 781 -882

Children of Divorce at Risk: Overall Adjustment ãA longitudinal study for the Society for Research in Child Development 1992 ãCompared to children of divorce, children of intact families were: ã“consistently more scholastically and socially competent” ã“more socially responsible” ã“demonstrated fewer behavior problems” ãdifferences still evident 4 -6 years after the divorce ãremarriage is no help – Mavis Hetherington et. al “Coping with Marital Transitions: A Family Systems Perspective” Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development 57 [1992]: # 227

Children of Divorce at Risk: Parental Relations ãResearch summary by B. Melnyk, University of Rochester ãThings children of divorce usually experience: ÔMost fathers become less nurturing with time ÔGrieving for the lost full-time parent is often intense ÔMother-child bond also usually deteriorates Ô“practical problems. . . leave mothers physically and emotionally unavailable” Ôparenting styles change to reflect extremes: authoritarian or permissive » Bernadette Melnyk, “Changes in Parent-Child Relationships Following Divorce, ” Pediatric Nursing, 17 [1991]: 337 -341

Children of Divorce at Risk: Socioeconomic Attainment ãA longitudinal study by U. of Nebraska ã“Those who experienced parental absence, compared to those who did not: - achieved less education - earned less per year ($4000) - attained lower occupational status

Children of Divorce at Risk: Socioeconomic Attainment ã“Only a modest proportion” of the difference could be attributed to economic factors. . . ãAttainment was measurably better if the absent parent had died than if he/she was absent because of divorce. ã“Our results suggest that some additional factor, other than economic hardship, is responsible for the lowered attainment of children from single-parent families. ” » Amato and Keith, “Separation From a Parent During Childhood and Adult Socioeconomic Attainment, ” Social Forces 70[1991]: 187 -206

Children of Divorce at Risk: Adult Depression ãA longitudinal statistical study at the University of Nebraska ãEstablished a link between parental absence-through illegitimacy, divorce, death, or other reasons-and subsequent depression ã“Family disruption during childhood has long-term consequences for the subjective well -being of both women and men. ” » Paul R. Amato, “Parental Absence During Childhood and Depression in Later Life, ” The Sociological Quarterly 32 [1991]: 543 -556

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to - breaking a promise live in peace. 16 How do you know, - breaking a picture wife, whether you will save your - harmful to children husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let Several points clear: him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such 1 Divorce is bad circumstances; God has called us to 2 Divorce may be a live in peace. 16 How do you know, lesser evil wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

1 Corinthians 7 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

1 Corinthians 7 10 To the married I give this Several points clear: command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her 1 Divorce is bad husband. 11 2 Divorce may be a But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be lesser evil reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

ãU. S. Department of Health, Education and Welfare; Public Health Service, National Center for Health Statistics: “One of the most clear-cut findings… is the high likelihood of divorce for persons who have been married more than once. ”

“the average duration of marriage before divorce is only half as long for the second marriage and onethird as long for third marriages. ” ã Duration of Marriage Before Divorce: United States, (Hyattsville, MD. : U. S. Department of Health and Human Services: Public Health Service, Office of Health Research, Statistics, and Technology, National Center for Health Statistics, 1981) p. 12 ff

ãA deeper, fundamental problem: ãWe believe changing our circumstances will “fix” our lives

1 Corinthians 7 17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.

1 Corinthians 7 17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. Assumes:

1 Corinthians 7 17 Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches. Assumes: God is sovereign

1 Corinthians 7 18 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised.

1 Corinthians 7 19 Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. 20 Each one should remain in the situation which he was in when God called him.

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you--

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you-although if you can gain your freedom, do so.

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you-although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men.

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you-although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a slave when he was called by the This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. 23 You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men.

1 Corinthians 7 21 Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you-although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a slave when he was called by the This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a slave when he was called by the This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your Often our motives for freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a changing our circumstances slave when he was called by the have nothing to do with God This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your Often our motives for freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a changing our circumstances slave when he was called by the have nothing to do with God This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; - making more money thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your Often our motives for freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a changing our circumstances slave when he was called by the have nothing to do with God This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; - making more money thinking! similarly, he who was a free man - avoiding problems when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your Often our motives for freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a changing our circumstances slave when he was called by the have nothing to do with God This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; - making more money thinking! similarly, he who was a free man - avoiding problems when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are - sexual lust 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your At other times, a change in freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a circumstances is for the better slave when he was called by the This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 Frequent desire to change our circumstances reflects a refusal 21 Were you a slave when you were to see that most of our called? Don't let it trouble you-problems come from within although if you can gain your At other times, a change in freedom, do so. 22 For he who was a circumstances is for the better slave when he was called by the The burden of evidence is on This is not legalistic Lord is the Lord's freedman; why we should change thinking! similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave. Remaining as you are 23 You were bought at a price; do = not a law, but a not become slaves of men. values principle

1 Corinthians 7 24 Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.

Application ãDon’t become a runner!

Application ãTo the Married: ãMal 2: 16 “I hate divorce, ” says the Lord ãDon’t give up! ãDon’t be fatalistic! ãGet help

Application ãTo the Unmarried: ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind out his purpose

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind out his purpose

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God Able to be single ãFind out his purpose with:

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God Able to be single ãFind out his purpose with: - emotional stability

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God Able to be single ãFind out his purpose with: - emotional stability - successful relationships

Application ãTo the Unmarried: Are you ready? ãBeing single = gift from God Able to be single ãFind out his purpose with: - emotional stability - successful relationships - spiritual consistency

Application ãTo the Unmarried: ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind out his purpose ãDon’t take matters into your own hands

Application ãTo the Unmarried: ãBeing single = gift from God ãFind out his purpose ãDon’t take matters into your own hands ãLook for a God-centered marriage

Application ãTo the Divorced: ãFind out what your contribution was ãDon’t think affluence will save your kids ãDon’t fight! ãDraw close to a helping community

Next Time ãSelf-giving love in a pluralistic culture

Marriage etc. ãComments? ãQuestions? ãExperiences?